The Kite Runner

The art of book writing has long since ceased, since the time it has become a lucrative entry to Hollywood. Almost all new writers and their works solely feel like as if they were a stepping 1st draft screenplay for a Hollywood movie. It is a sad state this then, that when you have writers writing not for a book, but for a movie, the essence of reading a book is lost (and I might as well wait for the movie itself!). However in spite of its screenplayish nature and rather filmy moments suitable for a movie, Khalid Hosseni’s first work “The Kite Runner” sustains considerable interest throughout and doesn’t let go till the end. That in itself is no mean feat.

The Book
The Kite Runner from a book per se begins brilliantly, but once one of the principal characters relegates into the background, the book considerably deteriorates into a screenplay. Not that it doesn’t hold interest, but predictable situations and predictable dialogues begin to hurt what could have been an excellent debut novel.

The Kite Runner chronicles the life of Amir who narrates the story of his life since his childhood from 1975, when Afghanistan was about to be run over by Soviets. The historical premise for the novel is indeed very interesting, and various times reflect the conflict and turmoil within Amir himself. The story is also about his friend Hassan, who is also his servant. The initial years of Amir and Hassan are built up beautifully – the story telling is ecstatic and it builds the drama superbly till the author decided to turn the book into a movie and thereby making it a predictable fare.

Somewhere midway, you just know what is going to happen next, and that is where the book begins to falter. Though it ends on a subtle and a very nice note, its impossible to ignore that Hosseni was already planning a Hollywood entry with this book (and for those initiated, there is a movie coming out directed by Sam-EvilDead-Mendes next year).

What I liked
– Simple story telling
– No complicated plot turns and events
– Tugs your heart at places, especially in initial chapters and towards the end

What I spiked
– Could have been so much better if the author and not reverted to screenplay tactics
– The character of Amir is really irritating, and malformed at many places in the book.

Overall
Overall the book is just like my review 🙂 – somewhere down the line things hurry up and before you think what could have been much better review, it ends. Ha! Seriously, the book is a “feel-good” book, perfect for in-flight reading. Don’t expect too much and you won’t be disappointed.

BTW, if you are wondering about the title of this review, I luved this line from the book, and is used at appropriate places, almost forms a tagline of the book.

Come, Make me Rich!

Another of those mails which I just love to no end!

DEAR FRIEND,
SABAAH AL-KHAYR.

I AM IBN MOHAMMED MOHAMMED,I AM 67YEARS OLD.IAM A CITIZEN OF SAUDI ARABIA,BUT I AM RESIDENT IN CAYMAN ISLAND.I WAS BORN AN ORPHAN IN 1937. I HAVE NO FATHER OR MOTHER, AND I HAVE NO RELATIVES.I STRUGGLED AND WORKED HARD AND ALMIGHTY ALLAH BLESSED ME ABUNDANTLY WITH RICHES.I USED TO BE A DEALER IN GOLD, DIAMONDS AND TANTALITE.I AM NOW OLD AND SICK. I AM NOT A HAPPY MAN.I HAVE NO WIFE AND I HAVE NO CHILDREN.I DID NOT GET MARRIED DUE TO A REASON I CANNOT DISCLOSE TO YOU.FOR 2 YEARS NOW I AM SERIOUSLY SICK. I AM PRESENTLY IN HOSPITAL SUFFERING FROM LUNG CANCER AND I HAD A HEART ATTACK WHICH HAS AFFECTED MY SPEACH.I CAN NO LONGER TALK AND I AM ALSO DEAF.MY BODY IS PARALYSED.THE DOCTORS SAY I HAVE ABOUT 2 MOUNTHS LEFT TO LIVE.I SEND YOU THIS MAIL WITH THE HELP OF MY PRIVATE NURSE, ASSISTING ME. I CAN ONLY MOVE MY RIGHT HAND,AND I AM ABLE TO WRITE LITTLE WITH IT. WHAT I HAVE WRITTEN IS BEEN SENT TO YOU VIA EMAIL BY MY PRIVATE NURSE AND CARE TAKER. I HAVE LITTLE TIME SO I HAVE COMMITTED IT TO SPREADING MY WEALTH TOWARDS BETTER HEALTH CARE FOR MANKIND.IN THE HOSPITAL WHERE I AM ,I HAVE GIVEN THE MANAGEMENT ENOUGHF FUNDS TO UPGRADE AND BUILD A NEW CANCER RESEACH FACILITY.THIS WILL PROVIDE BETTER HEALTH CARE FOR OTHER CANCER PATIENTS. I DONT KNOW YOU, BUT DUE TO MY CONDITION AND THE WISH OF ALMIGHTY ALLAH I
AM CONTACTING YOU WITH THE HOPE THAT YOU WILL CARRYOUT MY INSTRUCTION FOR THE SAKE OF HUMANITY.I HAVE US$6million IN GOLD DEPOSITED WITH A SECURITY DEPOSIT COMPANY .I WANT YOU TO TAKE CUSTODY OF THE GOLD, SELL IT AND USE THE MONEY TO BUILD AN ORPHANAGE IN YOUR COUNTRY. YOU WILL NAME IT MOHAMMED ORPHANAGE HOME.

YOU MUST FOLLOW MY WISH FOR IT WILL GLADEN THE HEART OF ALMIGHTY ALLAH.

IF YOU ARE READY TO DO THIS AND CARRYOUT MY WISH, THEN SEND ME
[1]YOUR FULL NAMES
[2] YOUR PHONE/FAX NUMBER
[3] AND YOUR RESIDENTIAL ADDRESS.

WITH THE HELP OF MY PRIVATE NURSE I WILL BE IN CONTACT WITH YOU.

I AWAIT YOUR REPLY.
ALLAH HAFIZ.
IBN MOHAMMED MOHAMMED.

— Hello sir? U were born orphan (how??), You didnt have brothers or sisters (Of course dumb man, u said you were an orphan!), U are paralyzed, had a heart attack, have lung cancer, your speech is impaired, you cannot write, you have an un-discloseable disease and you are deaf too! Did someone say you are DUMB too?! And your private nurse is another dumb idiot who doesnt want your $6 million, so you want me to take it!

Sigh!! If you existed in reality I would be by your side sire. 😀

What are you waiting for?

Yesterday I came across this ad for a prescription medicine on TV. Not that its unique or one of its kind, but I couldnt help the hidden sarcasm thrown at the patient in the ad.

Don’t really remember what was the prescription medicine for – yeah – it was RA – R(something) Arthiritis. So, it was this pill designed to be taken once a day to negate and get rid of RA. And the Ad with a soothing voice of a lady went thus…

“….So ask your doctor about RA %&## prescription medicine. People with liver problems, kidney problems or heart ailments should not take $%$. If you have High Blood Pressure, Diabetes or Osteriopersis, please talk to your doctor to see if ##* RA medicine is right for you. Side effects may include headache, blurred vision, weight loss and or fatigue. Pregnant women should not take #$#$ RA. If you are already taking prescription for Low Blood Sugar, Hypertension or cetain types of Heart Ailments, see if Prescription #$%# RA is right for you. In rare cases, Heart failure, Ulcer Problems and Muscle loss has been reported using Prescription #%# RA. So what are you waiting for?? Talk to your doctor today! “

Hello Lady?? Are you even sure that a normal human being qualifies to be treated with this Prescription @#%# RA?

Book Review: One Hundred Years Of Solitude

Another of my past Reviews. This review was a difficult one to write – I had just finished the book, and I was trying to write this in a very convuluted, long-drawn, wordy way: much like the way the book is. Except that I dont write that brilliant :). Two years hence, I have corrected an awful lot of mistakes that I got carried away with the first time. I didnt want to rewrite this completely because that would take away the spirit I wrote the review with, however bad it is.


After a 150-200 pages or so I had given up on the book. It was almost as if I had been reading a monologue of disjointed events, told in an uneven time, set in an indistinguishable period, played by a variety of characters named similarly to each other, and a cornucopia of a series of events making no sense. However old habits die hard, and thankfully I decided to finish the book. 15 days ago I set out to complete the journey of the Buendia family. After a fortnight, I was still left in middle with 2 generations of Accordio and Aurelianos and their meaningless, miserable, happy-sad existence. Yesterday however, after a decision to finish the journey, led me to stay put on my bed, in solitude, to travel the rest of journey with the family, in search of that end which had tired me out, to find what happened at the end of it, and maybe try to understand why everyone who reads this book calls it a classic, perhaps also try to make sense of how, when, where, and what the book implied, and in doing this understand the hidden brilliance, the atrocious sexual innuendos, the comic-tragic tragic-comic events spanning a hundred years, that occur in this book, maybe in search of solitude.

After 500 pages at end, I read the events that bought up the book and how Gabriel Garcia Marquez wrote this in almost poverty state. I couldn’t help but also notice how Gabriel himself becomes a character and friends the Buendia Family, or when Gabriel creates an allusion of his son and daughter in the book. The striking secret in the family, the secret parchments, the three unknown men, the lost treasure, the hidden love, the emptiness of closed windows, the warmth of open windows, the string of bad lucks, the ironic predictions between the beginning and end of that of the chestnut tree and dragging ants, to the instant where one sees his future the moment it were to take place, all of this creates an exposition that leaves you stunned in silence for a few moments; Its all that and more in the multitude of hundred years that span this book.

In a sense, which hundred years was the author talking about, perhaps, is a mystery left to the reader. For the hundred years begin with a mention of Francis Drake who attacked Rioacha in 1500s, to the modern day planes, perhaps meaning a time frame from anywhere between 1600s to 1900s a time scale suggesting a scale of hundred years spanning multiple centuries. That’s probably the first of its kind which the book offers. The supernatural events, the ghosts of forefathers, the gypsies, the birth of a city, the endless rain, the endless sunshine, chocolate elevating father – the effect can be best described as amalgamation of Joseph Heller’s Catch 22’s madness with Salman Rushdie’s imaginary worlds. They give rise to a term which probably the author who published his work well before the above mentioned authors and inspired them and not otherwise, must take the honors for coining the words Magic Realism

It’s a mystical world of Macondo, where the story ends, but then not without weaving an intricate picture of the birth of the place, the hustle bustle of the village, which turns to town, which turns to city, a developing place, unsafe place, finding itself destroyed by years of rain, and then years of sunshine, and more perhaps, the solitude it had when it was first discovered. It weaves with it, an intricate tale of a family spanning 6 generations, each one having a common names of their fore-fathers, and with the name, the common fate. The six generations go through a life of pure love, fear, superstition, incest, identity crisis, self evaluation, loneliness, and phases of solitude, in a circle, as an irony perhaps to indicate that history repeats itself; Similar mistakes are made, and though a prediction exists to remind them of past history, it awaits till the moment where history ceases itself, that you finally realize when history was just about to beginning to be understood, it ends, almost tragically

Through the expense 6 generations, I was taken through a maze of stories which went around in circles to come to an end. Sometimes the multiplicity in different perspectives to the same incident made for a confusing, and at times boring read too, but offered clever handling of the incidents, to the point that they made you wonder how the author managed it. At one instant, several incidents happen at the same time retold at different intervals at different time periods and written in a way so coherent, that only if you realize you as a reader is going through the same phase as the Buendia, that is, you too like him went around a circle to come to the same point, will actually be able to really appreciate how well developed particular incidents are. Don’t worry if you get the lost coming back to the same point of the story from different ends, you will always, as I did, meet a crossroads in stories to remind you where you where.

As if this were not enough, you will be taken to a world where almost anything could happen at any given time, but might mean nothing at all eventually A world where non-accepted norms of society seem absolutely normal, to the extent of being a matter of fact. Gabriel not only uses his past experiences of his life to tell the tale, but creates an illusionary world of Macondo, almost like a Malgudi, which he uses in other stories too, however, this being the life of Macondo as it were. One hundred years spans more than anything else, and not only will require you to read it in as it is, in solitude, but will also expect you to be a part of life at Macondo, to see the mirage of events yourself.

To return to that indelible question that I asked myself at the beginning whether this book is a classic Maybe as I write these words, do I also realize it, it is.

Do I Look Like I Care?

So I have this T-Shirt which I got from Walmart a couple of weeks ago which is white in color and the text in bold, center: “Do I look Like I care?” – makes for a bold, humorous fashion statement, thought I.

Anyhow, Saturday afternoon, in burning 90 degrees, I decided to wear this T, simply because it was so comfy and head to CompUsa to drool on Apples. Though my friend tells me that those days are numbered and warns me that Intel + Apple=Crapple.

Thats besides the point about this post.

As I was walking towards the store, I notice this woman walking towards me with a bunch of carrybags in her hands, obviously heading to her car. As we neared, she laughed out loudly and quipped – “Thats a lovely T-Shirt! I need to get one of those and wear in front of my husband!!!” ; “Its a good T isnt it?” I said. She asked me where I had got the T-Shirt from and remarked that she would rush there immediately lol.

I was amused by her reaction; I could already imagine her saying to her hubby – “Do I look like I care?”.

Anyhow, back home in my condo building, as I was taking the lift to the 10 floor, the two mexican women in the same lift, did the same – stare at my T-Shirt, and then seconds later, one of them burst out laffing and said – “I need to get one of those!! My children need to see me wearing this!!!”“Good heavens” I thought – These WOMEN!. Hmmmmmppph!

Moral of the story:

Women definitely dont need to wear this T-Shirt!

Five Point Someone

OK, I finished this 270 pager in one single sitting, over a period of 5 hours – Now that is not what I would be doing on most books. However that is not to say that Five Point Someone is a classic. Heck, FPS is not even the best book I have read in my life either. It didn’t move me, nor did it break my heart in the end. Yes, many facets of hostel life and college were missing too, and at times I thought the book spent too much time on three people. Yet, this book rode high on several factors that did it in for me; One- nostalgia. Next – Chetan Bhagat doesn’t try too hard, which is a blessing. Next – the characters are believable and mostly relatable. Next – it doesn’t read like a movie Screenplay!!! (Thank heavens and thank Chetan for small mercies – these days I tell you authors only… hmmph!)

Anyhow coming to the point (did I deviate anyways? Ha!), the point of the book is essentially about three pointless guys, into pointless things, generally pointless about their life, who believe education system is pointless, generally earn less grade point averages than their batch-mates, and who at one point make it a point to enjoy their college life as their primary point in life, and very well manage to do – almost. (OK, here, stop, go back, read the sentence and count the number of times I used the word “point” and exclaim at my profound abilities to use 11 “point” in one sentence).

< < OK, there are 10 “point” words – you didn’t count did you? Admit it admit it – no shame admitting it  – What your point anyways you may ask! >>

Coming to the point (And this time I did deviate!), the three guys happen to be Hari (Who writes the book in first person), Ryan and Alok, almost seeming to arrive from three different strata of life to study under the coveted IIT institute. The book essentially chronicles their lives in the four years of their engineering, complete with everything I could relate too, though I was in electronics engineering, AND not an IIT-ian. The reason why I could relate to Hari and Ryan more than anyone else was because of the way I could relate to me and my room-mate in my engineering; quintessentially I spent a better part of my engineering trying to be someone else, just like Hari does. What happens through 4 years of their life is what the book is all about, and saying anything more would probably take away the fun of reading this book! The book is a nostalgia ride, and at best left to be read.

Though that is not to say the book is not without its share of flaws; Chetan almost breezes through the joy of Hostel life, almost relegating hostel to the background. Hostel life teaches you an awful lot of things in life, and it was a factor sorely missing from the book and three friend’s life, which in turn hampers their character development strongly. Also, given the fact that the book is more about friendships and lasting friendships, it doesn’t really delve deeper into anybody’s life at all. At the end of four years, it comes across as if Hari, Alok and Ryan know about each other just a little more than what they did when they began, which is trifle unrealistic. Also, a pivotal incident about keys leaves you wondering how a character knows for sure that a bunch of car keys also contains keys to an office. . However I could easily ignore the flaws.

Though, perhaps, one of the reasons this book also clicks is Chetan Bhagat doesn’t try too hard – its difficult to explain it, but one gets a feeling that Bhagat opted to keep things in control rather than get away with “creative liberties” LOL. And another reason of course is the nostalgia it definitely builds up making you reminiscence your own college days. The favorite parantha shop, the rooftops of buildings, pink floyd, alcohol – seem to remind of some of your own incidents in your life.

Overall
Everyone loves something they relate to – even with its share of good and bad, I still loved Five Point Someone, and would strongly recommend everyone to read it. Its not the literature classic out there, but its definitely a book to read, cherish and allow yourself some deep nostalgia.

And one other thing why I liked the book – 3 years ago, I started a chronicle of my hostel life, didn’t know why, but just wanted to pen it down. At 70 odd pages, I quit with other burdens of life. Maybe, this book has just inspired me to write down some more pages….

The Alchemist

On trip back to the United States, by some misfortune or luck, I managed to buy just one book. That I had to still endure the Maharajah with probably another couple gave me the shudders since this was not very inspiring though. Add to that the book I did got, “The Alchemist” was just around 100-150 pages long, thereby suggesting it would get over even before we crossed the Arabian sees! However things happen for good and luckily the seat next to me sat a good looking girl, about my age and just because you asked it, well, she was a Gujju! So while I was not chatting with her about India and she not telling me about her life, I read the book. In deed, the book lasted the whole flight and it was only near the end I finished the book. Also I need to make a trip to New Jersey soon, if you know what I mean J

Now coming back to the haranguing on the book I am going to review today, first and foremost let me tell you that I prefer books over girls. Now if this had been a such a stupendous book as it claimed to be on covers, I did have been pretty unlucky not to know her J. Fortunately or unfortunately, the book is nothing but an average rendition of one man’s quest for himself.

THE ALCHEMIST

Likes of such books have been written a many. Richard  Bach’s brilliant book  ‘Jonathan Livingston Seagull’  or the average ‘Illusions’ come to my mind immediately which debated on similar topics albeit different ways. The problem with The Alchemist it tries vainly in the later half of the book to be come something grandiose and just falls flat on itself. So what is it about?

The Alchemist is about a dreamer who decides to follow his dream. The dreamer is a shepherd who is told that he would find a treasure in the pyramids of Egypt. With a wishing from the old man, begins his journey to the pyramids. In between he meets a budding alchemist who in turn wants to meet the one (The real Alchemist) in the oasis. At last when he comes in face with The Alchemist, the alchemist then sets out to explain him about the soul of the world and the soul within. Eventually the dreamer actually reaches the pyramids to only discover that the treasure he looked for all his life lied with him back home.

MORAL

The book begins brilliantly with some really thoughtful lines hidden in the story. When author says we are always sure of how others should lead their lives, but never quite ours,  you simply nod and wonder such exquisite lines. However to the book’s loss, they are far less and few, a fact that made both of Richard Bach’s works very famous. Things go downhill when the Soul of the World and such philosophies are introduced with some bizarre things happening within the book. The dreamer’s ultimate realization of the soul of the world, that is the soul of God was his own soul, doesn’t even sound satisfactory. His path to realization that God was probably his perfect self does not come across strongly enough for us to justify with the dreamer’s dream.

FATE & DESTINY

In the beginning of the book, till the later half of book, the author presents a thoughtful discussion on Destiny and Fate. We are all destined to do the work we were supposed to in our life the authors argued, however not many do it because they are simply bound by their insecurities of their fate. This probably came across as the strongest point of the whole philosophical thread of the book.

In my personal opinion, an individual controls his fate. And yet there is always a thing called destiny. Everyone is destined to do their work, and if we are destined to something, our fate too is destined with it. Conversely, my fate binds me to my destiny. It is in my fate to follow the destiny carved for me.  So – do I believe in destiny? Yes! Do I believe in Fate – Yes! The book provides a good debate on this issue, and probably the only reason I ended up giving 3 stars to the book

PROSE

The prose of the book is very simple, straight and to the point. It does not try to be a literary classic in its own right, but manages to be simple. However, its far too simple – to the point that it bores you. Such a book requires the author to hold his reader’s interest throughout, however this is where it fails. One is never really interested so much in this book at any time.

FINALLY

Did I like this book? I thought this book was a pretty average book, and if I really had to recommend a book on similar lines, then I did seriously recommend Richard Bach’s ‘Jonathan Livingston Seagull’ which is a far more superior piece of work; and yes, shorter too J

Richard Bach’s rendition of the Seagull looking to break beyond the boundaries to reach his dream to the point where his prodigy learns that to know thyself was to know the one, provides more thoughtful exposition than a dreamer lost in desert.

PI

In the book ‘Life Of Pi’ towards the end when the kid explains his adventures with the tiger, the police men refuse to believe him and laugh him off. When he reiterates the same story with animals, it becomes more convincing to the policemen. I probably felt the same after finishing Seagull and the Dreamer.

Do animals teach us more about life than we can to ourselves?

Oh what a loser!

Yes yes, you heard it right – I am a loser. A really bad loser! Pray, what did you lose u ask – and I say WEIGHT! Ha! and I say WAIST! more HA!

So month ago i was cherry blossoms pondering my life and what had come to pass! A month later, I am in chirpy mood (tra! la! la!) and there are enough reasons to see why life has been wonderful! I have lost weight…. FiNALLYYYYYY!

OK – there is a small milestone to reach, but then, I think I am doing good :). Of course not that it didnt come with its share of problems – weight loss happened at the expense of knee injury, heel injury, tennis elbow injury, less food and other assorted pain in the world 🙁

But then I am now “Fitter”, “Stronger”, “Smarter” and “Happier” hehehehehehehehe!!

So there!

I know noone is interested in numbers, but I lost 2 inches and 22 pounds 😀

Cherry Blossoms Of Life?

Finally, this year I did it. Since the year I had come to this country, I had been hearing a lot about the famous Cherry Blossoms of DC and the Cherry Blossom Festival. I had been planning all those years to visit the mall and see ’em, but never did. And now this year, out of the blue, saturday morning, I decided, girl or no girl, friend or no friend, date or no date, me, the supreme one, had to see Cherry Blossoms without a doubt. Who knows, I might meet the girl of my dreams there, I wondered!

Wondering, putting on nice clothes and all that, and most importantly shaving on a saturday (!!!!!!!), I went along. Being a Metro Vetran, I didnt need cars to go to Smithsonian – all I needed was a simple red and orange line. The experience however was different and unlike any other in the history of Train travel in United States I’ve had. It was like mumbai local – more people jamming in than more coming out; chaos, absurdity and noisy kids ruled! However I was wrong to have thought that entire D.C population was packed in that one single train – wait – they were all around at Smithsonian and Tidal Basin. For a brief moment after coming out into the park, I thought entire world had ensembled for some rare celestial event hapening at D.C << My wicked self hoped Bush would show up somewhere and make a speech, but not to be 🙁 >>

Anyhow, at the Tidal Basin, me alone, warrior amongst an army of families on grounds, lonely amongst all the couples walking hand in hand, single amongst friends who had come over – to see Cherry Blossoms. And when I am alone, and when I am in park alone, and when I am in park alone watching Cherry Blossoms, I did only one thing I always did – think about LIFE!

And so there it was – as I was strolling across the Tidal Basin for good several miles, I lay thinking of my life gone by, my life going to come and my present. In between, as I always do, noticed people and their expressions; Indians there were many, but one thing I began noticing again and again and again of each Indian couple was – “Why the hell were they so grumpy???!!!!!!!!”. It was amazing – scores of Indian couples, none of them were looking happy or seemed to be enjoying the view. None of them seemed enthusiastic enough on such a brilliant day to appreciate the beauty of cherry blossoms. Some of them looked even worse with their kids and their baggages behind. It was as if poppy and mommy were forced to stroll their kids in the park.

Where was the romance, where was the holding of hands between couples?! Where was the smile and nuances shared between couples! Where was the arm in arm strolling in the park happiness – what was wrong with these couples out there – as I was getting miserably angry that if I had a girl I did be romancing with her on such a perfect day, I decided to stop watching such couples alltogether – otherwise I was sure I did end up talking to some people!

Thats probably when it struck me – maybe, I am missing something or someone badly in life!

Walking ahead, yet, I saw a multi-ethnic, multi-cultural ensemble crowd, some with their dogs and cats, walking accross the lake, all on the same day enjoying the Cherry Blossoms. Next week, cherry blossoms would wither away, and people would have to wait one long year to come back to the city to view them again in such splendor. And then it dawned – one year changes a lot of things in a person’s life. People clicking photographs, people making videos – all a part of preserving some memory of a day when they are together. People clicking photographs and videos to remember not the day of Cherry Blossoms, but the memory of being together on that day perhaps. Next year may bring better memories, or worse, but memories of present probably needed to be preserved. And that is what all the people out there were doing.

Except me. Neither I had a camera (which is very unlike of me), nor did I have anyone to share my thoughts with. And YET, this was a very memorable day for my life. As I strolled back towards the moment and began to leave the park I realized, perhaps, I am in my Cherry Blossoms too – That one last speck of youth and freshness, that young blossom for whom the world is new, and someone whose blossoms will fade away, very quickly very soon, maybe when I do get married. I made a memory of my own today – Cherry Blossoms reminded me of who I am right now, and how important it was for me retain that memory; Of me standing alone on the bridge, over looking the lake and monument, surrounded by a thousand people, and wondering, how long will it last.

Maybe next year I will not be alone. Maybe next year I can never think the way I thought about life today. All in all, a very satisfying trip to Cherry Blossoms.

6 years and now….

Its funny how one can know a person for more than 6 years and yet have never them; and when the time comes where you might meet them, suddenly you are left unsure about yourself, about everything between you and them, and keep wondering about everything that may happen. Its true, knowing someone and meeting someone can be so different – and especially, when the two belong to two same ethnic background, but raised in completely different cultures 6000 miles apart.

Now I know someone more than 6 long years, even before I came here and became a FOB, and even before I also realized there is another acronym called ABCD. But did ABCD or FOB ever come between the two of us? Oh yeah – lots actually – I am what I am, and she is what she is – so why not take the liberty and laugh at ourselves for that. I don’t even think it is an issue which we dealt with.

India is a land of diversity. Diversity is our biggest strength, and our biggest adversity. We are a land of such disparate cultures and peoples that any attempt to unionize them to a single religion, ideal, bond is not only useless, but in a way taking out our identities. Hence, in general, we Indians love to segregate ourselves from other Indians, even though the differences may be minimal, and at times ridiculous to a passerby. But that minimalist difference is what gives an identity which each group of Indians either carry with pride or disdain, depending on how the thinking is.

Think about it – Get a Punjabi and Gujarathi together – they will talk Hindi or English. Add a Punjabi to the circle, the two Punjabis will talk in Punjabi leaving the poor Gujarthi for fend for himself. Add two more Tamilians, Telegus and you have a completely disparate groups who are not only talking amongst themselves, but make sure that using English or any other language, some if not all ideas are exchanged.

Now what happens when this one group is sent across 6000 miles – obviously the oneness factor of being in the same boat holds, and cultural differences disappear? But we Indians as we are, love to invent them if they disappear – hence, 6000 miles apart – we have two other cultures – the FOBs and the ABCDs – essentially the same roots, but inherently different from one another. Then there are Americanized-ABCDs (whoa? What does that mean anyways), and then there are FOBs and H1FOBS ( Obviously FOBs who came to study in America are superior to those who came on H1 lol ).

I really won’t go into the immigrant life, but suffice to say I think “The Namesake” by Jhumpa Lahiri is a great introduction to the immigrant life. I guess she says it all not only from the perspective of an FOB in Ashok and Ashima Ganguly, but an ABCD in Gogol Ganguly as well. Frankly its all the same – the feeling of desolateness, the feeling of incompleteness, which exist on both side of the border; because there is no place like home and home is where the heart lies. Frankly I think its tough being an ABCD, tougher than being an FOB. An ABCD always lives in that line that dwells on the past and the present – parents don’t want let go of their culture and history, a obvious FOB trace (because they were themselves FOB once), and the children who live in a different world, different society – perhaps the origin of ‘confusion’ in American Born Desi’- Comparing to them, perhaps, I as a FOB have a simpler life.

Perhaps ABCDs think of us too in that way – as EFGH – Every F*&**% Gets Here. But they are entitled to their thinking – after all, as a diverse India, we still are culturally poles apart and a thing or two is always going to be different.

Coming to my friend, its interesting that in the 6 years or more, we have never bothered to be bothered by being a ABCD or FOB. I tease her ABCD all the time, and she calls me FOB all the time – and yet, an unmistaken bond of true friendship remains between us. Yes, she is a Bollywood freak, probably knows more than me about Bollywood, and perhaps visited more of India than I have myself all these years. But I guess what binds us is that we were willing to look beyond the obvious differences that exist between us both culturally and ideologically, and perhaps discover another individual behind the curtails of being an ABCD or an FOB. We both are glad (and I can safely speak for her) that we did – that I view her as a close friend, and she does too. Perhaps, ABCD or FOB is just another term that identifies us – its our identity, and we both chose to make fun of it, be merry, and most importantly learn about the changes in life.

As Kevin Arnold says – “Change is never easy. You fight to hold on. You fight to let go”.