I think its such a myth that Americans (White in particular) are very secretive about their lives. I am in my new team barely for 5 days and I already know my white manager has 2 kids, one of them is a difficult teenager, their schools, their extra curricular sports they do and more. I know his wife was born in central america, and they have vacation home in panama that they’ve never visited because his wife inherited it from her father she didnt talk to for 2 decades. I also know he was part of a band in his younger years, and grew up in various army bases. I know he and his son loves Indian food but his daughter doesnt. I know his favorite bands and kind of music he and his kids like (his daughter loves hip-hop!), and he is currently writing a music album using some AI tools. Meanwhile all he knows about me is that I am married, we have a daughter and a dog. Thats it!
Its fascinating how quickly Americans will just spill out their entire life to you within knowing them for like 2 days. Its so common. I feel like I knew SO MUCH about my white American team mates, and maybe too much – and yet, the desi guy I’ve worked with for 7 years, I have no idea what his wife’s name even is.