A couple of weekends ago I met with an desi ex-colleague of mine for lunch. She was telling about our VP’s wife who belongs to the same circle/caste as does she, and since there are not that many of that sub-caste people around, her parents get invited to… “things”. Apparently Usha did a full on griha-pravesh ceremony (Indian housewarming party), and everyone had to check-in their phones and any electronic device before they could attend. Then the function itself was hard core South Indian function with puja and all, with her and kids in Indian attire etc. But nothing of that comes out. Apparently she’s the same at temples too. She regularly goes to the local Shiva Vishnu Temple, but before she goes the temple is locked down – she gets a room to herself to change into Indian attire, do her pujas, and then changes back into western outfits before she leaves the temple premises. All I could think was, so much effort to hide who you are because your husband is a fucking racist and representing a party that’s gone full Nazi. Imagine she could’ve married any other rich white decent American and she’d never have to hide her own identity the way she does now. Power truly corrupts people.