Last evening i got some good 1:1 time with my youngest cousin finally. He’s always been a bit of a aloof character and because of significant age difference between us, we don’t connect as cousins as much as I do with other older ones. He usually never comes out of his room, and if he does stays for a bit and hides away again. Yesterday I forced him out with me to the mall while visiting their family, and asked if he wanted to share a drink with me at the bar. We ended up spending a good chunk of time at the bar, and he finally seemed to open up about all the things in his life and his insecurities and things he wants to do. It was a such a refreshing change and I really felt we bonded for first time as actual adult cousins! I guess all I had to do was bring alcohol into the equation?